"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." - Mahatma Gandhi.
Almost everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. The wounds can leave lasting feelings of anger, bitterness, and even vengeance. Negative feelings can crowd out positive feelings. One may feel swallowed up by bitterness. Evidence is mounting that holding on to grudges and bitterness results in long-term health problems such as depression, anxiety, difficulty concentrating, sleep problems, high blood pressure, and digestion issues.
Forgiveness is the word we use when one chooses to let go of a particular grievance or hurt. It is a means to attain peace by not dwelling on the pain which keeps your body in that "fight or flight" mode. Forgiveness is a process and commitment to make peace within us. It is one means to healing oneself and healing our relationship with others. We can take momentary refuge in forgiveness for, if it is sincere, it can free up a tremendous amount of otherwise trapped and toxic energy with us.
Choosing to forgive is choosing health. Forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. It doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. Letting go of grudges and bitterness makes way for compassion, kindness and peace that help one go on with life. Letting go of past hurts is easier said than done. One doesn't often realize that they are coming from a place of resentment or a sense of injustice, especially when the hurt is expressed as a physical symptom such as asthma or migraines. We must now learn to put our energy in a positive direction. It is better to give up expecting things from people.
The most important beneficiary of your forgiveness is you yourself. Every person you forgive empowers you, and at the same time disempowers the hold upon you, of a past, that's become irrelevant. It provides much more of you to be available to live for today, just as it releases that much more of you to create the only emotions that can heal you and make you thrive - love and gratitude. So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains.
Think back on every moment of your life, when someone hurt you, injured you. Can you still feel the pain, the anger? If the answer is "yes", then a part of you still lives back there-then. If there are enough of these people, enough of these incidents and enough of these parts, there may not be much of you remaining to be here-NOW. When you find yourself drifting back to a negative, painful moment, just hold on and think, is it worth giving it the fuel, which you need for yourself. Again, you must learn to love everything that has created you, so that you may continue to become more. That can only be done with forgiveness.
You are free; free to live in the moment, no longer compelled to filter the present through the prism of past resentments. At last you can trust and feel gratitude. Being in the present is more interesting since it is reality. Doing nothing is being a victim: its opposite is being a hero. Not only just others, we must also forgive our past and ourselves and learn to love ourselves. Acceptance of who we are, and our desires and wishes is one way to exhibit self-love. Express what you feel so that you can allow openness to produce a "non-denial" of your feelings. We must learn the art of experiencing the freedom of genuinely and kindly expressing our wishes, instead of focusing on our wounded feelings. Let's agree that we have only one aim, one aspiration, both individually and collectively, and that is to achieve a higher consciousness.
For more than 200 hundred years, homeopaths have been using remedies to heal all kinds of injuries- physical as well as emotional. Homeopathic remedies have an ability to make profound effect in resolving mental and emotional problems and making deep and lasting changes in the lives of the patients. These remedies work very deep in unlocking trapped emotions. After the correct remedy, we may surprisingly revisit the event either by memory, emotions, or dreams. It is as if the remedy has helped unlock and set free that last little bit hidden deep inside. Once this happens it is amazing how quickly the health problems resolve.
We have many related mental-emotional symptoms in the "MIND" chapter of Complete Repertory. Some of them are:
- Dwells on past disagreeable occurrences
- Throwing things at persons who offend
- Ailments from disappointment, deception
- Aliments from mortification, embarrassment
- Sadness after grief
- Reproaches others
- Complaining about offenses long past
- Hatred of persons who has offended him...etc.
There are many Homeopathic remedies which have the potential to address the 'grievance story', the one that can help any particular individual has to be chosen carefully based on how the grievance has affected them. Ammonium mur, Arnica, Aurum met, Ignatia, Nitric acid, Natrum mur, Phosphoricum acid, Staphysagria, Thuja, etc. are a few of them.
Forgiving the past- oneself and others- is a key step in improving health. Forgiveness is a mindful process that can disconnect us from the past and empower us to heal, but it is not easily accomplished without help and nurture. Homeopathy can free us from past emotional hurts so do take help when required.